Transition
For the last few posts I think I've written enough about what life was and how people were and how life is now and what a change the present is, etc. etc. Enough. (The few unlucky ones who get to chance upon my posts would probably be thinking "Thank God!")
Yet I find myself itching to speak about another transition. This is a transition on the home front. From the role of a daughter to a daughter-in-law. It's actually strange when you reflect upon how different the two roles are while being apparently similar.
What makes staying as a daughter so different from staying as a daughter-in-law? First, as a daughter you are accepted whichever way you are,loved unconditionally, no tags attached. You are not much bothered about what you say and how you say it, what you do and how you do it,life is simple.
Enter mom-in-law and you are shaken awake. Think before you speak, or else... watch how you do things,because you're being watched... you are being judged all the way. The load of judgement weighs down on you day and night unless you are one of those fortunate few who don't give a damn.
There's a long list of expectations when it comes to being a daughter-in-law. And if you think you're going to try and keep up to that list, you've had it. Because, that list keeps growing like the beanstalk. And your effort will be a never-ending one. Best policy, take it from a veteran, is to be yourself, come what may, remain polite yet firm ,and be dutiful, whether a daughter or a daughter-in-law.
Yet I find myself itching to speak about another transition. This is a transition on the home front. From the role of a daughter to a daughter-in-law. It's actually strange when you reflect upon how different the two roles are while being apparently similar.
What makes staying as a daughter so different from staying as a daughter-in-law? First, as a daughter you are accepted whichever way you are,loved unconditionally, no tags attached. You are not much bothered about what you say and how you say it, what you do and how you do it,life is simple.
Enter mom-in-law and you are shaken awake. Think before you speak, or else... watch how you do things,because you're being watched... you are being judged all the way. The load of judgement weighs down on you day and night unless you are one of those fortunate few who don't give a damn.
There's a long list of expectations when it comes to being a daughter-in-law. And if you think you're going to try and keep up to that list, you've had it. Because, that list keeps growing like the beanstalk. And your effort will be a never-ending one. Best policy, take it from a veteran, is to be yourself, come what may, remain polite yet firm ,and be dutiful, whether a daughter or a daughter-in-law.
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